Sleep (or the lack thereof)

Jack and Sleep. Hmm. They don’t go together as well as say PB & J or butter and popcorn. More like bug spray and mosquitoes, one repels the other. I have tried. Many things. Including reading Dr. Sear Sleep book, Elizabeth Pantley’s No Cry Sleep Solution, Dr. Weisbluth’s Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child, Dr. Ferber’s book, in addition Twelve Hours sleep by Twelve Weeks, also The Baby Whisperer. And tried each technique in succession. Without success. As a result of being an expert on sleep philosophies, we do have a routine before sleep– read a book, darken shades, sing a song, put in crib. Scream and scream and scream. With me in the room patting him. Until he falls asleep an hour later. Sometimes he falls asleep faster. Sometimes it takes over an hour. We have a nap/bed schedule that we generally ascribe to– without being dictatorial– Naps at nine and one. Bed around 7:30. We have always had a routine of sorts. We have tried Cry it out– I couldn’t let him go for longer than say– thirty minutes. But that resulted in him screaming for thirty minutes or an hour every time we went to bed. So we tried patting, Pick up Put down, Baby Whisperer style. Which worked– for about a week and then most recently he has started screaming again– with me patting him in the room. Sleep is a precious commodity. I feel like a mean drill sargeant, demanding sleep when my baby is pleading, tantruming– “no sleep!” But I know he needs it! He also won’t/can’t/hates to sleep in new places– which is hard. With him, there is no “magic bullet.” We have tried giving him a lovey, which he wont’ take, throws it away. Swaddling used to work. Until about four months when it didn’t. Nursing also used to work. Now it sometimes works, but usually he nurses greedily with his eyes closed, finishes, eyes pop open and he swivels to the floor to play.

Any advice– besides

they will eventually sleep (I know that! I want help now)

let him CIO (cry it out) (Tried it, can’t emotionally let him go past thirty minutes) after a month of it not making any difference besides him getting hysterical anytime we got near a crib I gave it up

3 responses to “Sleep (or the lack thereof)

  1. I’m so sorry that this is so rough right now. I don’t have any advice or words of wisdom. Wow – thirty minutes of crying. I don’t think I could do that either. I’m curious to know if anyone else has some suggestions. Hang in there…

  2. oh you poor thing! um, and this has been a “scarred straight” episode for me. i was kind of hoping that if i read enough books i wouldn’t have an unconsoloable baby. *gulp*
    i have no advice.
    is there a person you can call to come in and help you? is there a such thing as baby coahes? there really should be.
    poor you! the stress! which, you being sleep deprived, is tripled.
    i wish i could come over and give you a break.

  3. It seems like you’ve tried everything, but i have One thought: how about a noise maker? I know Jack is on the street side of the house, and it might get noisy and wake him up at night… We had an air purifier that just broke, and William has trouble sleeping through the night at Pickwick and i think b/c its too quiet… and any noise would wake him. also, light wakes him up. Is it dark in Jack’s room? Make sure you have black out shades to protect from street lights that shine in. Okay, good luck dearie! Hang in there.
    Oh yeah, one more thing is with william for nap time i started letting him cry it out b/c i knew he needed a nap. i only had to do that for a few days and he got it. its now book time and i let him pick out a few books to read and then he naps. he has quiet time in his crib for about 3 hours every day which works great. (granted he’s older, but i started about 15 months with that). but i didn’t have the heart to let him cry it out at night either, but doing it during the day wasn’t so bad. (like go into the kitchen and cook and turn on music for him and just let him learn to go to sleep… 🙂
    lots of love!! miss you.

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